My brother, Allan, and I had a meeting with the Administrator at the Gateway Haven Nursing Home where our Mother now resides. He picked me up and off we went for our 10:00 am appointment.
After our meeting up for a visit we went to see Mother to take her a Valentine Card, Roses and a Tim Hortons coffee, as she loves Tim Hortons Coffee.
All went well with the intake meeting with the exception of a bit of paperwork I still have to gather such as the updated POA (Power of Attorney) papers. I found something very interesting today that I had not known about until now.
The last 6 years my brother has been exercising Mother's POA Finances, and the past couple I have been as her Caregiver. I could not find the POA paperwork today, as I had given it to the other Nursing Home and either did not get it back or misplaced it myself, so I had to contact the lawyer where we had it drawn up to request another copy.
This is the part I had just found out today ... the lawyer's office would not release a copy of Mother's POA papers to me unless a Doctor authorized that indeed my brother and I were needed to act on her behalf. The lawyers did call the Nursing Home to verify with them that this indeed was the case.
I asked the lawyer's office why this was. The answer very simply was family members have taken POA papers acting on behalf of another in an illegal way. Wowsers ... all along we, as in my brother and I, had never been asked for a Doctor's consent when we have exercised POA on our Mother's behalf. Really what the lawyer's office explained made complete sense to me, with I know this having probably happened to many an unsuspecting poor soul(s) taken advantage of by a terrible despicable family member(s).
Really dealing with CCAC, in-home PSW workers, paperwork, lawyers, nursing homes, community services ... it most certainly has been an experience over the past six years for me. I should have kept notes all along as I am certain a Handbook on the subject would be a great service to others who have yet to do this for their own parents.
Speaking as a Caregiver, what I can say to another, which I learned about at the last month or so of Mother living with us, is about the VON Support for the Caregiver(s) here in Grey-Bruce. Now is a perfect time for me to give them a SHOUT OUT, as they are holding a Caregiver Day to give the opportunity for Caregivers to learn more about gaining support/services as a Caregiver.
I still deal with some feelings within myself finding myself reaching out from time to time to the VON Support Circle for support. It is nice to know they are still there for me when I need someone outside my family/friend support to lean on.
Should you not be in the Grey-Bruce area, please pickup the phone to find out if the VON in your area has a Caregiver Support Circle for your needs as a Caregiver. Just *click* HERE to find where in Canada an office is closest to you.
I must be feeling better, shooting out all that information !!!
Once our meeting and visit with Mom was over Allan dropped me off downtown where I met up with Rob since we had some "Crabby Cabbie" business to attend to. After that was all done with guess what I got ......
This afternoon I took it easy as I was still feeling ill and weak from the Migraine. After a Dinner of homemade Hamburg Soup I finally started feeling a bit better, and now actually starting to feel a bit more my normal self, whatever "normal" might be considered at times.
Late this afternoon around 4 pm or so the sky filled with large fluffy snow flakes; you know the kind you stick your tongue out to catch.
I must take a moment to wish two very "special" people I have gotten to know over the course of the past year and more a very very Happy Birthday. Yesterday was Dear Lena's Birthday over at Frugal and Thankful, and today is Carla's Birthday over at My 1/2 Dozen Daily. Both these girls have a special place in my Heart, as they are wonderful Wives and Mothers with a huge place in their hearts for everyone else who happens their way. Happy Birthday Girls you both deserve the BEST in your lives.
To everyone else ..... not to forget "all you need is love".
This is all she wrote this day, "Just North of Wiarton & South of the Checkerboard".